Failing To Love Your Business Sets You Free | LAYC 90

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Hey, today I'd like to talk to you about the F word.

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I know we're all grown ups here, right?

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Got our big girl panties on, we're talking about tough stuff, and

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we're talking about fun stuff.

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And that's not the F word I want to talk about right now.

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Although I hope that this will be a little fun as we explore not the F

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word for fuck, but, the one that seems to scare us even more in a social

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conversation and that is failure.

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Why is the word failure, so frightening to us all.

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Oh my gosh, there goes another F.

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And particularly in the context of what's going on in the conversations I

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have right now with my networks about the feeling that we're failing if we

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don't love our businesses anymore.

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How COVID, the pandemic, man, that was such a hard time for business

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owners and even more troublesome, more of a burden for women business

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owners because they were usually also juggling a lot of other personal stuff.

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Caregiving, relationships, missing occasions, missing

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people, missing friends.

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So, Going back to failure, and the feeling of failing our business, if

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it doesn't turn us on anymore, if we're not excited about it, if it's

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not everything that the whole world thinks it is, that we are faking it.

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The F's are just rolling today, ladies.

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If we're faking it every day that we show up and put a smile on our face, but we're

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really gritting our teeth because we have to answer one more complaint, come up

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with one more piece of wisdom, provide one more piece of solution, find the

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financial resources, talking about F's.

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They keep rolling here.

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And yet, none of this.

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It's all failing to make us really want to jump out of bed every day and go, Woohoo!

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This is everything and all that I need.

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And I think that's what really is the issue here.

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We're supposed to be content.

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We're supposed to be extremely happy with this life that we have built.

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After all, it was our choice, right?

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We made the decision to be a business owner, to sacrifice a lot

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financially and relationship wise, and healthcare and personal care

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time, and all of those things.

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So, suck it up buttercup, right?

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Wrong!

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What we're failing to do is give ourselves some grace and some

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perspective, some distance from the situation around us, circumstances

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outside our control, and also evolution, natural evolution of our lives and who

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we are and what's interesting to us and what is now like that's enough.

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I've learned all of that.

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I've gotten all of the juice out of all of that.

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I felt that myself personally, when I got close to that 20

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year mark with my company.

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That it was like, Hmm.

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Okay.

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You know what?

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This wasn't easy all the time, and as sure as hell was, not always fun.

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But I'm really glad for what I've done, what I've learned about

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myself, and proven to myself.

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Let's be honest, I think that was the big thing one day that

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I went out, woke up and went,

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Okay, I proved to myself that I could do it, in fact, and I wanted, then,

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in that moment, I knew, maybe didn't admit it really fully to myself,

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but I knew it was time for me to explore other challenges and other

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opportunities to grow in my life.

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And that was when I began that process of unwinding me from the

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company that I had built, and the identity that was wrapped up in that.

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So , if you're feeling like , you're faking it right now, if you're

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feeling like you're lying , to others and yourself about how you

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really feel about the company that you have toiled over and built and

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sacrificed for, You're not alone.

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There are so many of us, Baby Boomers especially, who are reaching that stage of

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maturity in our business and maturity in our priorities in our life, what we value

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now, that are ready to make a change, and that's the most freeing thing that

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you can I realize is that it's okay to acknowledge the fact that you don't love

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everything about what you do right now.

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And then the real freedom comes from figuring out.

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So what are you going to do about it sister?

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And that's what I do.

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That's my joy and working with women entrepreneurs and clients is helping

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them figure out that Encore script to get them from where they are now, that

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hands on, micromanaging, chief asset, chief , cook and bottle washer in their

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company to The chief investor or to the person receiving the check for the sale

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of that company or to whatever it is that they choose to do to get more of

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what they want now in their life, more time, more freedom, more flexibility,

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more financial security, and more fun.

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So if you'd like to talk about that, stick around.

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We're going to share deep dives on these conversations in the upcoming episodes.

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And I'm also going to share with you some of my most incredible, inspiring

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female entrepreneurs who'll share their journeys, their stories, and

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their pearls of wisdom on these topics.

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Talk to you soon.