Resistance or Regret - Which Scares You More? | LAYC 87

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Welcome to the Lift As You Climb podcast, where it's all about the

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journey and the joy of discovering who you are now, deciding who you want

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to become, and embracing your genuine identity, influence, and impact.

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In each episode, we'll explore how life's experiences have prepared us for what

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we choose to do next and how to create our Encore, write our own script, and

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star in the next stage of our lives.

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I'm your host, your Encore strategist, and transformation catalyst, Isabel Alexander.

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Who do you think you're going to get the most resistance from when you

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decide to stop being who you are today and start being who you want to become?

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Kind of a crazy question, I know, might take a minute to go, what

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the hell, Isabel, are you asking?

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But think about this, if you're not really happy, with how your life is

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today, whether that's because of the business that you're running, or the

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relationships that you're in, or that little voice, the little bitch on your

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shoulder that's saying, "You Coulda!

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You Shoulda!

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or it's the concern about Tick Tock!

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Time is running out, there comes this moment where you just have to decide,

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okay, is the discomfort of where you are now, staying in that box where

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you are now, going to be greater than or less than the scariness, the

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fear, the unknown of transforming into who you want to become next?

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Dr.

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Benjamin Hardy says it much more eloquently in his book, the, Be Your

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Future Self Now, Be Your Future Self Now.

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My own experience with that has been like I'm one of the test subjects here.

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I've been going through this process of evolution for some time.

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And I'll be very candid, I've been feeling embarrassed, I've been feeling

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some shame around the fact that I feel like I never quite get it, that I have

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been failing at, failing forward to my future self until, duh, it hit me one day.

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It's not a destination!

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Seriously, it is a journey, because as I evolve and grow as a woman, as

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a business owner, as a citizen on this planet, I'm continuing to change

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and I become a new iteration of me.

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Whether I'm peeling back the layers of the onion or I'm putting on

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another layer of just who I am now, hopefully I never ever get there.

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I have now come to that conclusion.

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Celebration, blow the horns, call in the band.

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I truly hope I never say, that's it, I'm done, this is me, this is the best

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it gets, because then the party's over.

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What's the fun?

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Even as seriously tough and scary, it is at time, and embarrassing,

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and taxing, and stretching and growing in all imaginable ways.

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Continually being in this pursuit of who is the next best version of me?

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Who do I want to become?

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Who am I reaching up to?

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If not me?

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It does take a minute to realize that if you don't make that choice to go

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all in and find out and go through that evolution, that metamorphosis process over

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and over again, then, as they say, you are living a life of quiet desperation.

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I really had a breakthrough on that earlier this calendar year, when

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I realized I did not want to live with regrets that I didn't try.

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Even as intimidating as it seemed, and impossible as it seemed, starting from

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where I was at that moment to get to where I really want to be when I tell

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myself the truth, the raw, scary, honest to God truth, who I want to become.

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I can't NOT try, because I won't be able to live with myself, and I will live a

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life of regrets, and I will start to give up on living my best life if I don't try.

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All of this seems whew, I get it, it's big and aspirational, but I'm sharing

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this with you because I want you to know it's really worth it and that You can do

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it, and you don't have to do it alone.

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There are lots of others out there that have, are on this trajectory

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of growth and increasing in value and experience in life.

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And we're here.

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We're forming a community.

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We are creating foundations and impact and challenge and business success that

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gives us the power to grant wishes, starting with our own, and then to

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empower others with our example, and with our capabilities, and our resources.

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So please, if you're thinking, No, it seems too frightening,

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too intimidating, you know what?

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And I do not believe in that expression, "Do it scared".

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What I'm saying is...

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Do it with a community.

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Reach out and find the peers, the advisory groups, the masterminds, the coaches,

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the experts, to surround yourself with, first trusting in your own heart and

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your own vision and the voice that if you stop for a little while and listen,

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you will hear clearly about who you have been on this journey of life evolving

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to, and who you are intended to be.

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And that everything so far has simply been the foundation for the next chapter,

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the next level of your life experience.

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And I'm excited.

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I'm very excited to be here with you to see what you decide and I would

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love to hear about your experiences and your questions about this.

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Because I get it.

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It is intimidating when you say I've never been that me before.

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That's actually the whole point of it.

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The journey is pretty cool.

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If you think about, it's just evolution, moving a little bit every day in

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the right direction to where you ultimately will be - IF YOU BEGIN.

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So please begin with me as I begin again and again and

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yay, life will be interesting!

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