Live Your Eulogy | LAYC49

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Hello.

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Thanks for joining me today.

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I'm especially grateful for your company as I celebrate.

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That's not quite the right word, but certainly as I acknowledge and mark an

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occasion, an anniversary of sorts, not an anniversary from a wedding, although

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that's ironic that I should think about that because in fact, it's the

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anniversary of the beginning of a divorce.

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365 days ago today, I boarded a flight, to leave a marriage, a

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life that I had lived for 12 years.

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a lot of relationships, and some unhealthy habits and patterns in my life,

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and I've spent the last year unlearning some of my lessons during that period

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and getting reacquainted with me.

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The real me!

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Absolutely stunningly surprising to me that 12 months has already gone by

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another year of my life on this planet.

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And it was hard.

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There was a lot of hard stuff.

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There was a lot of emotional stuff.

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There was a lot of gut wrenching, soul searching, hand ringing,

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hair pulling, you name it, during that period of time where I often

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said What The F have you done here?

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Was it the right thing?

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Have you made a mistake?

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Are you sure this is what you want.

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I am sure.

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I am sure indeed.

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But it did take a while for me to get to this place of not looking back over

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my shoulder and not doubting in my own judgment that it was hard to do

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this, but I had to do it in order to continue to thrive and live my best life.

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My Encore, this one and whatever the future ones will be.

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I'm known as the Encore Catalyst Transformation Catalyst, the mistress of

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reinvention in some circles, and that was long before this past 12 months change.

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If you're not sure what catalyst means, the definition for me, that really makes

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sense is that a catalyst is a substance or an individual who enables or facilitates

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a change or a reaction without being consumed or changed by the reaction.

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A year ago and more back, I realized I was being consumed by the life that I

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was living, and I was being changed in ways that I didn't like and were not

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sustainable to my mind, my body, my soul.

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My spirit was disintegrating in front of me and I really

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felt that I was dying slowly.

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Sounds very dramatic.

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I know, but really I felt like I, my life force was leaking out of me.

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Like the old Chinese torture c alled Death by a Thousand Cuts.

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Rather than continue that very slow death, I made a decision to try for a new life.

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Here I am.

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I survived.

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And I am thriving and I'm not finished reinventing or transforming

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by any stretch of the imagination.

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In fact, I hope I never will.

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Cuz I think once you stop changing and growing and evolving, that is the end.

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That is the end of your life and you begin to contract and decline.

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I've learned a tremendous amount about myself and life over the past year,

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and because I am a lifelong learner, I'm grateful for that and I know that

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there's much more for me to learn.

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But today I'd like to share just 10 of the lessons that I really felt

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were worth all of that hard knocks, hard learning in the past 12 months.

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I learned that the sun rises every day and it's up to me to do the same.

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I bring light to others, but I shine brightest when I

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loved myself first and most.

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I did not make a mistake.

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I learned what I did not want, and I decided to pursue what I did want.

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Relationships change in unforeseen ways.

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Accepting change is part of our growth and letting go with love

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is the only healthy option.

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When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.

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That wisdom is thanks to Dr.

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Maya Angelou.

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Regret is fatal if you allow it to grow and fester.

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Everything I expected to be true about this age and stage of my life was wrong.

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Everything I experience now at this age and stage of my life is better only

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if I begin and keep moving forward.

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Everything I accomplish at this age and stage of my life matters.

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I am living my legacy.

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Number 10 is a lesson I learned a long time ago in my life, and I

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am grateful for this refreshment and reinforcement of this.

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I have the power to grant wishes starting with my own.

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If these lessons resonate with you, and if you're thinking, but how do you start?

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Where do you begin?

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What is my legacy?

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How can I do this with no regrets.

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Then I'd like to share with you something that I created and used

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for myself and used this many times with clients and friends and people

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that share my vision for let's live our life fully and make a difference.

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It's called Live Your Eulogy, and it's an exercise that I guide you

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through that will help you script your eulogy the way you'd like it

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to be read and to get started with a plan to live your legacy while you

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are alive to influence it, Impact it.

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That's available at FreeGiftFromIsabel.Com and I'd love to hear what you come up

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with, for your eulogy, your Legacy plan.

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You can share that with us in the Lift As You Climb Movement Facebook group.

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Or reach out to me at Hello@TheEncoreCatalyst.com.

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If you'd like to have a little bit more of the backstory of how I got to this

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anniversary occasion today, Episode 41 - Irreconcilable Change, I'll give

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you a little bit more background.

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So in closing, Thank you again, and I hope to see you here soon because

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we have a big, exciting future ahead of us, OUR ENCORES, and I'd